https://www.scrumpydaddy.com/tags/dilemma/Recent content in dilemma on Scrumpy DaddyHugoen-usThu, 09 Feb 2017 15:42:24 -0500https://www.scrumpydaddy.com/2011/11/02/feeling-of-futility/Wed, 02 Nov 2011 22:50:57 -0400https://www.scrumpydaddy.com/2011/11/02/feeling-of-futility/<p>Yesterday and today were hard days for me. They felt like days of futility.</p> <p>They started Matt on his thickened feeds, which was very exciting to hear they were going to start. When I arrived at the hospital yesterday I came in and saw he still had the feeding tube and was receiving his full feed via it for his noon feeding and there were bottles of formula in the room. When we received the news that he would be starting bottle feeding with thickened feeds Monday afternoon it was not well explained that it would not be breast milk and that it would take him a while to get to his full feeds via the bottle. I guess my expectations of him feeding were too high. Since Matt had not been nursing or bottle feeding from the start due to his nasal issues and then when they did begin feeds it was via a feeding tube due to him aspirating he would now have to learn how to feed at 22 days old. For a baby sucking is a natural thing and normally they quickly learn how to make that get them food. Matt has been getting food and not having to work for it since it was through the feeding tube. This means he doesn't quite understand that he actually has to do something to get food.</p>